Longing for Her Beloved
8 Oh that you were like a brother to me
who nursed at my mother’s breasts!
If I found you outside, I would kiss you,
and none would despise me.
I would lead you and bring you
into the house of my mother—
she who used to teach me.
I would give you spiced wine to drink,
the juice of my pomegranate.
His left hand is under my head,
and his right hand embraces me!
I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem,
that you not stir up or awaken love
until it pleases.
Who is that coming up from the wilderness,
leaning on her beloved?
Under the apple tree I awakened you.
There your mother was in labor with you;
there she who bore you was in labor.
Set me as a seal upon your heart,
as a seal upon your arm,
for love is strong as death,
jealousy is fierce as the grave.
Its flashes are flashes of fire,
the very flame of the LORD.
Many waters cannot quench love,
neither can floods drown it.
If a man offered for love
all the wealth of his house,
he would be utterly despised.
OthersWe have a little sister,
and she has no breasts.
What shall we do for our sister
on the day when she is spoken for?
If she is a wall,
we will build on her a battlement of silver,
but if she is a door,
we will enclose her with boards of cedar.
SheI was a wall,
and my breasts were like towers;
then I was in his eyes
as one who finds peace.
Solomon had a vineyard at Baal-hamon;
he let out the vineyard to keepers;
each one was to bring for its fruit a thousand pieces of silver.
My vineyard, my very own, is before me;
you, O Solomon, may have the thousand,
and the keepers of the fruit two hundred.
HeO you who dwell in the gardens,
with companions listening for your voice;
let me hear it.
SheMake haste, my beloved,
and be like a gazelle
or a young stag
on the mountains of spices.
Song of Solomon 8 Commentary
by Hank Workman
The Song of Solomon closes much the same way it opened – intense passionate love of Solomon and his wife. In so many ways, it shows the progress of maturity in the relationship as it grows only deeper and excitement for being in the other’s presence has not subsided.
For the third time, the bride charges her friends to not awaken love until it so desires. Each time it is a statement about their relationship. Her warning, as it could be looked at, is to let love progress and develop until it’s matured. Not to allow things to go too fast. It’s about taking time to enjoy one another on every level so their love matures and becomes fruitful.
There’s no way not to address this as there is much passion found here, but it also is a plea to take your time in your intimacy allowing one another to be fulfilled without interruption. It’s taking the selfish component out of sex and loving one another deeply, pleasing the other.
The love between Solomon and his bride did not diminish after their wedding night. It only grew and flourished.
Paul wrote to the church of Corinth a passage often used in weddings. It speaks of love being the ultimate act of showing Christ to others. This passage translates so beautifully to this passage where selfishness is set aside and love matures.
If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. 2 If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing. 3-7 If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love.1 Corinthians 13:1-7 The Message
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have.
Love doesn’t strut,
Doesn’t have a swelled head,
Doesn’t force itself on others,
Isn’t always “me first,”
Doesn’t fly off the handle,
Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others,
Doesn’t revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
These words beautifully challenge all of us but in the context of marriage is essential for maturity. Selfishness must be set aside again and again for growth. It cannot be found anywhere within its confines. That includes your sexual union where you think of the other more than yourself.
Beautifully we have witnessed such a maturing love between Solomon and his wife. Beautifully it paints a picture of genuine love.
“But for right now, until that completeness, we have three things to do to lead us toward that consummation: Trust steadily in God, hope unswervingly, love extravagantly. And the best of the three is love.”1 Corinthians 13:13 The Message
Song of Solomon 8 Commentary
by Brad Boyles
As Hank has written, this chapter is the 1 Corinthians 13 of the Old Testament. In these verses, we find four essential qualities of love.
- It is unstoppable and inevitable within a Godly marriage
- It burns brightly as a reflection of God
- It perseveres all things, even when storms and floods overwhelm
- It is a priceless gift which cannot be bought or coerced, but only given away
What I appreciate about this story in Song of Solomon is that it is not a perfect love story. No marriage is perfect, and I would argue that in order to actually possess the type of love the Bible describes, you must experience conflict. True love is not a fairytale ending with all your hopes and desires.
True love means sacrificing when you have nothing left. It’s continuing to trust and believe in someone despite how they may treat you. It’s a commitment that goes far beyond reason and logic. The love that is described in this chapter is a covenant that is sealed until death. It’s a beautiful picture of God’s design for marriage. I believe that if we follow it, we will reap a massive harvest of fruit.